Resources for your familyWhat if the best thing you can do for your child is to regulate yourself first?
The journey for your family’s regulation starts here. Explore how self-awareness, emotional regulation, and healthy boundaries can transform the way you respond during challenging moments.
Colleen’s kind and thoughtful approach encourages adults to face old patterns with compassion, and approach relationships from a foundation of authenticity, safety, and unconditional love.
the bookHow to Lovingly Set a Firm Boundary offers a compassionate, practical guide to supporting children by prioritizing your own regulation first.
Through thoughtful guidance, real-life examples, reflection prompts, and practical strategies, readers will learn how to respond rather than react, set limits without harshness, support children through difficult emotions, and foster confidence, autonomy, and resilience.
“I truly love this book and wish that I had read it sooner in my journey of parenting.” — Ellie, SLP, Mom of Two
Warm, encouraging, and deeply reflective, this book is for parents, caregivers, educators, therapists, and anyone who wants to support children from a place of personal alignment—loving themselves first, setting boundaries with confidence, and believing in the children in their lives. Order now on Amazon:
Chapters from "How to Lovingly Set a Firm Boundary”
1. Introduction
Book overview, important topics discussed in the book.
2. Pillars of Self-Care
Various strategies and practices to facilitate a general atmosphere of well-being.
3. Inner Authority
Learning to honor and trust yourself during the parenting journey.
4. Intentionally Responding, Not Reacting
Practicing strategies and concepts to be more intentional during challenging emotional moments and feel more in control.
5. How to Lovingly Set a Firm Boundary
6. Training Our Focus
We discuss momentum and how to pivot and focus more positively.
7. Facing Our Challenging Feelings
Tools and strategies to move through challenging feelings and ultimately find solutions.
8. What Do Children Really Need From Us?
Reflection and guidance on how we, as adults, can best support children.
9. Learning Through Choices
Helping children learn through life experience.
10. Addressing Challenging Behaviors
Strategies for us and the children to navigate these moments.
11. Reparenting Ourselves
12. How to Be “Ungettable”
Strategies to help you navigate challenging moments while keeping your own regulation.
the courseHow to Lovingly Set a Firm Boundary: The Course. An adult self-regulation course with a parenting focus.
This extremely in-depth resource uses videos and written exercises to build on all of the concepts and strategies presented in the book, and provides opportunities for you to apply the knowledge to your individual life experience.
In this course, Colleen will take you through thoughtful guidance, real-life examples, reflection prompts, and in-the-moment strategies. You will learn how to respond rather than react, set limits without harshness, support children through difficult emotions, and foster confidence, autonomy, and resilience.
Module 1: Introduction
Module 2: Pillars of Self-Care
Module 3: Your Inner Authority
Module 4: Intentionally Responding, Not Reacting
Module 5: How to Lovingly Set a Firm Boundary
Module 6: Training Our Focus
Module 7: Facing Our Challenging Feelings
Module 8: What Do Children Need From Us?
Module 9: Learning Through Choices and Life Experience
Module 10: Addressing Challenging Behaviors
Module 11: Reparenting Ourselves
Module 12: How to be "Ungettable"
MY FEELINGS WORKBOOK (FOR KIDS)My Feelings Workbook is a revolutionary resource to help children learn independent self-regulation skills.
This 107-page workbook has 50+ activity pages and 1000+ ways children can learn self-regulation skills. The workbook follows a 5-step self-regulation protocol that teaches children how to be more independent with their responses to life and coping skills.
“I wish I had this book when I was younger.” — Alona, Future Parent
The book provides a plethora of coping skills and strategies so children can practice feeling better throughout the day!
- Manage challenging moments
- Create ease & harmony in the home environment
- Unlock more parenting JOY
- Create safety and connection
- Learn long-term solutions & strategies
- Manage challenging moments - Create ease & harmony in the home environment - Unlock more parenting JOY - Create safety and connection - Learn long-term solutions & strategies
Individual SessionsLooking for 1-1 support?
Speak with Colleen directly for more in-depth and personalized strategies and concepts that can be used to help you and your family today.
Colleen O’Neill, MOT, OTR/L, BCP - Owner, Occupational Therapist, Author
Colleen is a board-certified pediatric occupational therapist, author, and parent coach who is passionate about supporting others with their emotional regulation. Colleen believes emotional regulation is foundational to a meaningful life and creating intentionally.
Colleen creates high-quality pediatric resources to support children and families with their emotional-regulation skills. The better we feel, the better life gets!
